Bruised and Battered

My body – namely arms and knees – has been bruised and sore for the past two days. There’s this scene where I was tossed around by my ‘hubby’ and it was quite a rough experience not only for me but also the poor camera man who had to take some close-up shots and I fell on him at one point.

Now I have a glimpse how physically abused victims feel when they are man-handled by the abuser. And it’s a bleak and horrible picture. The fear and sheer helplessness that paralyses one. The shock and horror at seeing your spouse whom you dearly love turning into an abusive monster. The cries and pleas that fall on deaf ears.

*shudder*

[url=http://thestar.com.my/news/archives/story.asp?ppath=%5C2004%5C10%5C24&file=/2004/10/24/features/9200304&sec=features]Statistics[/url] show that there were 2,555 domestic violence cases reported in Malaysia in 2003. The actual number of unreported cases might be even more alarming – knowing our culture of not wanting to air dirty linen in public.

I personally do not know anyone who’s currently in a physically abusive relationship but if I do, I’ll tell them to get themselves away from the abuser as far as possible. With immediate effect. The abuser needs help and you are not in the position to help him or her. To remain in such a demeaning and disrespectful relationship is to die a little every time it happens. Your life may very well be in danger.

It nearly freaked me out acting just that one night in such a situation. I can’t imagine actually living through such an agony in real life. My little bruises are a very minor affair compared to the emotional and physical trauma that the real life victims go through. My heart goes out to you.

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